The Two Types of Parents (Selective and OC Preparation)

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Steve Xu


Steve Xu 00:00

Hey parents, Steve Xu, the selective school guru. I want to welcome everybody to today’s video on are you flooded? Or are you a grinder? You know, I’ve been having this very interesting conversation with parents and students and everyone. And what I’ve realized is that, you know, most parents, you can kind of divide into two categories, right. And most of the people that I come across, you know who booked in a call who want to have a chat with me, come into two categories. Number one, they’re a float off, or number two, they’re a grind up, let me explain what each of these categories are. A floater is a parent who thinks it’s all going to be okay. A floater is somebody who has this distant vision is distant goal of getting into a selective school, getting a private scholarship, but their day to day actions are kind of like, you know, they go from coaching college to coach in college, they’re basically a sheep where, you know, wherever their friends tell them to go, they go, right, and they jump around on the coaching college bandwagon. They peruse these free Facebook groups try to find free materials all the time, which is completely fine. And they’re trying to find the latest and greatest hacks and gimmicks and resources, right. And again, every single night, they’re a little bit anxious or a little bit worried. But they simply float, and they just believe that, hey, one day, you know what, before the selective school, you know, their child is just going to magically snap, and they will get into a selective school or opportunity class. 

Now, if you’re a float off, number one don’t float, right, you need a clear strategy, and I’ll talk about that in a second. And I’ll talk about why most floaters end up getting crushed by dryness. Okay, now, I’d say probably 90% of the parents are watching this video, if not 100%, like 99% of the video offload is right. And you guys probably know this right now. It’s like you guys are watching this video for reason. You’ve kind of you know, you floated from place to place, you really don’t have any kind of clear strategy, you go on a whim. If other parents tell you, this is where you need to go, you end up going to that tutoring College or selective school, someone’s like, hey, this sharing college is really, really good. Let’s go there, this writing tutor is really, really good. Let’s go there. And if you’re approaching that kind of thing, right now, I’ll give you guys some advice in a second. Now, the second type of parent that we have, that I’ve come into a lot of contact with lately, is what’s known as a grinder parent. This is a parent who’s all in right, this is a parent who really pushes their kid very, very hard, you know, they’ve gone to, you know, three, four different coaching colleges and then go there consistently, right? Every single day, they’re putting in two, three hours, right, they putting in a lot of luck, and then working very, very hard. 

It’s not like they’re not getting results they are improving, except the amount of time that they’re putting in versus the amount of results that they’re getting, and not proportional. So I’ve noticed that there are many parents who are very, very hardworking, who have been, you know, sending their kids to coaching since probably two or three, going the same places during the trial test on the WAM T, having, you know, multiple tutors as well, and they grinding, they’re working really, really hard. And number one, I want to pull these parents because I was raised by a granddaughter, and my mom did very much what you guys are doing, and I applaud you because at least you have some kind of strategy, and you’re working hard. Now the problem with grinders is still the, the the idea of death by 1000 cuts, which is, what happens is because you’re so distracted, because you go into so many different coaching colleges, and because you’re spinning your wheels all the time, your child will get burnt out, your child gets discouraged, the child is just kind of like why am I doing this when I’m constantly just getting 50 60%. And I made 50 60% on the Skule trial just because that’s pretty good. But 50 60%, like some other trial tests, right, which is not very good. 

So what eventually happens in the long term is let’s say even if you get like a pretty low 224 score, you managed to get into a low, low to oversee, by the time selective school or opportunity class comes around your child’s burnt out your child is kind of tired, your child’s like, you know, Mom, I don’t want to do this anymore. And I’ve come across many conversations where we have really, really brilliant kids, but because we grind them a little bit too hard, and they’re working way too hot, and they’re not really seeing the results. They probably like, you know, it’s probably the opposite of the Pareto Principle, right? They’re putting 80% of time in to get 20% of the results, which is not what we want to do.

Steve Xu 04:36

And so if you’re a parent, it falls under either category, either, you know, obviously if you’re if you’re a floater, then you know you’re the bottom of the hierarchy, right, and you should at least try to turn into a grinder. But if you’re a grinder, then what I want to tell you is that there’s a better way. There is a better way of doing this. You don’t have to grind several Thought you don’t have to go through and you know, drop your child off at three to four different coaching colleges every single week, and always constantly worry about, hey, is this person a good shooter? Is this person doing the right thing, you don’t need to do that. Nor do you need to go through the 2 billion Facebook groups that are currently online right now, and try to keep on searching for free materials. Because I’ll tell you right now, those free materials are absolute garbage, right, including ours, they’re not very good. Because obviously the good stuff we don’t give you guys, right the good stuff we give to our parents at Scholarly. 

Now, if this isn’t trained you, then I want to give you the solution I want to give you the fix the fix is you need to find a system that works. without you needing to grind all day long, you need to find a system in which everything you have, you are able to spend 20% of your effort to get the initial 80% of results, you need to find a system in which you can basically develop all the most important foundations, right. And once you’ve developed that, you don’t need to do countless questions, papers, etc. Right? There’s no point for that, I used to be a grind, I used to be like, You know what, we need a grind every single day. And we need to do 1000s and 1000s of questions to get to the next level. And yet, repetition volume is key. But if your goal is simply to get into a top 10 selective school or opportunity class, which is a very achievable goal, and your child is ordinary, then really all you need to do is establish foundations in critical reasoning, critical thinking, right? The writing different patterns, and you’ll be fine. Right? If your goal is on James Ruse, if your goal is not to get a scholarship, you only really need to be in the top five set, which to be honest in Sydney is exceptionally easy if you know what you’re doing. 

So if you’re a parent right now watching this, and you’re somewhat intrigued, or you’re interested to see what this looks like, then I invite you guys to do two things, okay, because I can tell you everything on this video, and you’ll be like, okay, cool, but I want to show you. So the first thing that I’d invite you guys to do is number one, go into and book a free call. Okay, there is no obligation on this call. Because at the end of the day, we’re searching for parents who fit our mantra, and who actually want to get better. So I’d say over 90% of parents who give us call we don’t even work with. But what we can do to all 100% 100% of the parents who give us a call is we can at least give you a game plan, a strategy, a roadmap, we will give you a free diagnostic tests, and we’ll tell you everything that you went wrong, right, everything that you need a walk on with your child. Okay, the other thing is, we will tell you exactly what you need to do. And if you’re not the right fit, then we want to invite you to the program. And we’ll suggest mechanisms that you can do that you can work on right now, if you’ve got a weakness in fractions, if you got a weakness in decimals, if you got a weakness in close passage, we’ll recommend the resource that you can do right now. And so when you’re ready in a year, half year, two years time, then we can do another call. Okay. 

All right. The other thing that I wanted to say is I invite you guys to so that’s number one, go on, and book a call right? Number two is go on the YouTube channel go on the Scholarly YouTube channel. So if you type in Scholarly on you type in Scholarly Steve Xu, on YouTube, you will find videos that we’ve uploaded lately. And I think they’re going to be monumentally useful to you to parents who are lost, who are a little bit clueless. And you just want to understand what kind of good teaching looks like and more importantly, how to break down exams for your child. So I invite you guys to do those two things. If you do have any questions, I’d love to hear what they are. Let me know if you think that you’re a floater or a grinder. Or let me know that you’re extremely triggered from this video because you don’t think that you’re either. I’d love to hear from you guys. At the end of the day. all I have for you guys is all I want to do is just help. And if you do have any further questions on, you know, whatever anything related to selective school, scholarship, or opportunity class training, please let me know in the comments. I’d love to hear from you guys. Thanks and bye

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