Hey, parents, I hope everyone is having a great Friday, I want to jump on real quick to talk to all the kids who didn’t get an award. So as I’m scrolling through my Facebook nowadays, I see a lot of parents celebrating the kids who’ve got an academic awards and all that kind of stuff from, you know, the last few assemblies. And I think it’s really, really good, I think we should always celebrate academic talent, and we should always celebrate academic achievement. I have no issue with that. And I think, you know, more power to those parents who have kids who you succeeded and excellent and put in the hard work. But this video is not really for those who this video is for the kids and the parents, who kind of feeling a little bit left out, maybe let’s say your kid didn’t get an award or your kid.
You know, didn’t really get any kind of praise and recognition for the hard work and effort. Because I remember when I was a kid, I never really got academic awards. I remember, you know, from kindergarten to year six, I probably got maybe two or three academic awards.
Partly because I used to misbehave a lot. But I remember every single time, you know, when I didn’t get an A would, the reaction from my mom was always a Steven, you know what, just try out next time. And I think that’s always been my mantra, right? It’s always like, the only person that you’re really competing against is yourself. So it doesn’t matter if other people are getting awards, you know, obviously applaud them, you know, be happy for them. But never, ever feel like you’re left out because your time will come. I truly believe that I think if you focus on yourself, and you stop looking around in circles, and you start breaking your neck looking at everybody else, and you just focus on yourself and achieving your potential
And forgetting the competition, you will actually you know, achieve so, so much more than if you compare, you know, with other people on these kind of vanity metrics, like getting an academic award or getting this prize and getting that prize, or whatever. And this is also coming from me, like, you know, I ended up getting an academic award every single year in high school, right? And it’s good. But again, the only person that you should really compete against is yourself. So if you’re a parent, who’s kind of experienced this feeling of maybe feeling a little bit left out feeling like your child is inadequate, what I’d say to you is keep encouraging your child to work on, that’s the most important thing, like achievement at the end of the day.
I think a lot of people approached in such a narrow minded way. You’re not I mean, look, I’m at a point in my life, where I think for my age, probably achieved infinitely more than anybody around me. And there were many moments in time, if I looked around, like when everybody was getting internships, when everybody was getting all these, you know, achievements when everybody was doing so? Well, you know, I always reminded myself that, you know, I’m on my own journey, you know, what I mean?
They’re on their journey, I’m on my own journey. And I know for a fact that there were so many people, you know, when I was growing up, poor, you know, doing well now, but they almost, you know, view their value based on other people view their value in comparison to other people. And I made that mistake as well, when I was little. And I just think it’s so dumb, right? Like, if you truly understood how much you could do as an individual, and you just focused on yourself. And, you know, you just focus on encouraging a kid to be themselves, their time will come. Like, I truly believe that whether or not it prospers in an academic way, if it comes in like a, you know, in some other professional lens doesn’t matter, the time will come.
Now, I’m not saying that, hey, you know, don’t, you know, ask the kid to work hard, or, you know, don’t strive for academic success. That’s not what I’m saying at all. I’m just saying, you know, in these times, where you could might be feeling a little bit left out, it’s very, very important to keep on encouraging them, because I know that’s what my mom did for me. And, you know, that’s exactly why I’m in this position right now. Because instead of chasing these extrinsic things, you just focus on yourself, and you focus on just improving yourself a little bit every single day, like it might be 1% 2% 3%. And you stop looking at everyone else. You’d be amazed with how far you can achieve and that’s the most difficult thing because when everyone’s posting stuff, when everyone is you know, doing all this crazy stuff, and when it seems like they allowed to so perfect and yours is not that good. It’s very easy to fall into the trap of comparison. So hopefully, that that rings out loud and clear to you.
I’m not saying don’t compete. I’m just saying that competition is only Oh only going to track your focus from yourself. And if you just focus on improving yourself getting better and better investing more in yourself and focusing only on beating you, then the competition is mute, right? Like, you don’t need to worry about competing with people anymore. I don’t compete with anyone. Nowadays, the only people that I compete with that I look up to people, like, you know, my mentors, right, like I learned from them.
And that’s the only foci that I have, I don’t worry about people my age and what they’re doing and, you know, all that kind of stuff. I think it’s so so important. That, you know, you know, we balance this, this, you know, this thing of encouragement, and just getting people getting building up that self esteem, but also working on, you know, excellence. So don’t take this video demand, is Steve’s just saying that. It’s all good, my kid don’t make it doesn’t get an award, just don’t worry about them. I’m not saying that at all. I’m saying Chase excellence, but Chase excellence in yourself. That is the most important thing. Okay, that is the most important thing.
So hopefully, that rings out loud and clear to you guys. Let me know what you guys think maybe some of you guys think that academic awards are really, really important. If you think that way, that’s fine, let me know. But I know for a fact that, you know, the kids who get like, for example, the students who get University medals, right, students who really prosper, like at the highest levels of university and in higher, higher education, as well as in business and all of that. They often people who didn’t do very well in primary school, okay, I know a lot of kids who have gotten like, you know, university metals who didn’t graduate from selective schools, nor private schools.
I know people who have got a 99.95 ATAR, who didn’t get in selective school. I also know people who’ve made you know, like, personally, like they’ve made like, you know, millions and millions of dollars, like we’re talking 50 100 $200 million, who had terrible education, you know, when they were younger. So I think the main the main message is focus on yourself, work hard. And forget about the rest. Forget about everyone else. You’re not I mean, everyone’s got their problems so you don’t know what problems they’re experiencing. Cherish your child for what they are, and work hard. Thank you guys. And I’ll see you guys soon.